The Ten Principles of Successful Marriages

1. The common welfare of the marriage should come first. Personal fulfillment depends upon marital unity. (WE vs. ME)

2. For our marriage’s purpose there is but one ultimate authority – a loving God as He may express Himself in our joint understanding. The husband leads as a trusted servant; he does not rule.

3. The only requirement of each spouse is a desire to have a successful marriage.

4. Our marriage should be autonomous except in matters affecting other marriages as a whole.

5. Our marriage has but one primary purpose – to minister to our family and others around us.

6. Our marriage will never over-extend ourselves in work, finances or acquiring possessions that would divert our attention from our primary purpose.

7. Our marriage will work to become fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.

8. We will not take the role of “fixer” of our spouse but will seek to grow personally and if needed seek professional help.

9. With integrity, we seek to maintain a good name for our spouse and our children.

10. Confidentiality, trust and love are the spiritual foundation of our Principles, ever reminding us to place “WE” before “ME”.

**Based on the Twelve Traditions of A.A.